tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8230035528177800562.post4325057989436720799..comments2024-01-17T19:08:52.409+13:00Comments on Never Mind Yaar: The Case for CivilityKhoty Mathurhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09706537182743683089noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8230035528177800562.post-46953796787080289772013-03-06T17:58:50.108+13:002013-03-06T17:58:50.108+13:00I've been thinking about it for a long time, D...I've been thinking about it for a long time, DK. That people would like to appear refined and civil is obvious. Unfortunately, the desire to succeed and let others fail isn’t civility but just a front for fierce aggression. It makes the entire group lose out.<br /><br />One of the fascinating articles I read was on the benefits of co-operation. It convinced me that civility and co-operation are natural traits in many humans and that the ones who try to take advantage of that civility make the whole group lose badly to the group that respects and honours that civility and co-operation. <br /><br />Here's the link again http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Evolution_of_cooperation<br />Khoty Mathurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09706537182743683089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8230035528177800562.post-30974760415079712362013-03-06T17:52:49.234+13:002013-03-06T17:52:49.234+13:00I guess the only solution to too many of us sharin...I guess the only solution to too many of us sharing too few resources is to get together, pool our minds and our determined efforts to see how we can make our surroundings more bearable. I am sure we'd come up with some unique solutions.<br /><br />But that isn't the only reason so many Indians today behave either with arrongance or sycophancy with other Indians, Purba. As I said in my post, the wiki article on the benefits of civility and co-operation was really interesting.Khoty Mathurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09706537182743683089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8230035528177800562.post-25041300928141808672013-03-06T14:19:40.061+13:002013-03-06T14:19:40.061+13:00I believe, when so many of us are vying for so lit...I believe, when so many of us are vying for so little - it brings out the worst in us. We jostle for space, bristle with self-indignation, snap at each other. It's a stressful existence out there!<br /><br /><br /><br />Purbahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06345755953291104000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8230035528177800562.post-16529705530053570392013-03-05T22:31:09.711+13:002013-03-05T22:31:09.711+13:00:-):-)Khoty Mathurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09706537182743683089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8230035528177800562.post-35000573936671672942013-03-05T22:00:23.200+13:002013-03-05T22:00:23.200+13:00I've met some Indian people when I was in UK a...I've met some Indian people when I was in UK and I loved them. There is something magical about the Indian culture that fascinates me. And the people are magical too :).unikornahttp://www.unikorna.blogspot.ronoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8230035528177800562.post-83582178273706849722013-03-02T09:32:57.071+13:002013-03-02T09:32:57.071+13:00Glad to see a post on this KayEm. You obviously g...Glad to see a post on this KayEm. You obviously gave it a lot of thought. The big problem in our society is that many people want to succeed but have everyone else fail at the same time and/or be our servants. Hence the arrogance and expectation of servility.Dark Knighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12443167342411530535noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8230035528177800562.post-23406791373396782682013-02-26T11:22:02.768+13:002013-02-26T11:22:02.768+13:00False ego and perhaps their conviction that their ...False ego and perhaps their conviction that their relations will either laugh at them or feel sorry for them. As for each one of us trying desperately to be thoroughbreds (a very apt metaphor), nobody really cares for they are busy trying to do exactly the same. What a waste of time, effort and energy.Khoty Mathurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09706537182743683089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8230035528177800562.post-26845817367041493942013-02-26T00:40:54.800+13:002013-02-26T00:40:54.800+13:00The notion of a false Ego also plays an important ...The notion of a false Ego also plays an important part. Consider an intercast marriage. Even though the parents know that their children whould live happily with each other, their false ego does not allow them to take a decision in favour of their chidlren. <br />Our country has turned into a derby and we are not normal horses. We breathe fire. amithttp://mashedmusings.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8230035528177800562.post-89194936569547963712013-02-25T11:52:48.599+13:002013-02-25T11:52:48.599+13:00You're so right, Anjan. Arrogance is often a c...You're so right, Anjan. Arrogance is often a cover up for our short comings.Khoty Mathurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09706537182743683089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8230035528177800562.post-88649518741046825542013-02-25T11:51:19.288+13:002013-02-25T11:51:19.288+13:00Thank you, Indu. I completely agree. It is quite s...Thank you, Indu. I completely agree. It is quite sickening. Khoty Mathurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09706537182743683089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8230035528177800562.post-24991832704028758302013-02-25T11:48:47.168+13:002013-02-25T11:48:47.168+13:00When we don't have the ability to convey our f...When we don't have the ability to convey our feelings or point of view, Meenakshi, the easy option is to take refuge in arrogance. Why have we lost the ability to laugh at ourselves, face ourselves squarely in the mirror and make an honest effort to rise above our short comings? It would make us feel good about ourselves, about others, about life!Khoty Mathurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09706537182743683089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8230035528177800562.post-66758241483259053812013-02-25T11:36:29.138+13:002013-02-25T11:36:29.138+13:00Hope people realise the benefits of civility, Umas...Hope people realise the benefits of civility, Umashankar. Arrogance has too many off-putting negatives associated with it. Thanks for your comment.Khoty Mathurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09706537182743683089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8230035528177800562.post-44806523892171209722013-02-25T11:29:32.100+13:002013-02-25T11:29:32.100+13:00Agree, magic eye. The group leader holds much sway...Agree, magic eye. The group leader holds much sway with his group and with politicians. Both, the politician and the group leader can, and often do, become arrogant with individual members of the group.(You do mean that, don't you?)<br /><br />On an aside, unfortunately today, some group leaders don't have the good of their group at heart - it is the hightest bidder. <br /><br />Education and the ability to earn for themselves might help people cast their valuable vote as they see fit.Khoty Mathurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09706537182743683089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8230035528177800562.post-76960316402123546202013-02-25T05:42:55.037+13:002013-02-25T05:42:55.037+13:00Sometimes arrogance also falls in place because un...Sometimes arrogance also falls in place because under normal discussions a person cannot enforce his views upon others...and people often turn up to arrogance to hide their ineffectiveness to discuss or breach an issue...!!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11933118452485782357noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8230035528177800562.post-66509034277658035272013-02-25T03:39:08.582+13:002013-02-25T03:39:08.582+13:00You have given extensive thought to this topic.Arr...You have given extensive thought to this topic.Arrugance & servility-both are nauseating.As you say,there could be many reasons for pandering to the dons but it is painful to see someone being servile in order to earn his living! indu chhibberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17755152757229783585noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8230035528177800562.post-72215263219286456412013-02-25T01:25:42.245+13:002013-02-25T01:25:42.245+13:00Hmm....Arrogance is often considered macho. If you...Hmm....Arrogance is often considered macho. If you are polite then you do not have it in you. I agree movies contribute a great deal in giving fillip to this notion. <br /><br />It forces me to think that we are basically violent people. Violence doesn't always comes out by action. Violence of thoughts and language is equally dangerous.Woman'n'Beyondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07531334717489796258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8230035528177800562.post-36594122542971913092013-02-25T01:22:51.870+13:002013-02-25T01:22:51.870+13:00You have scanned the crannies of the Indian societ...You have scanned the crannies of the Indian society that sprout intolerance and uncivil behaviour. I am afraid, civility is no more than a vestigial organ among us. All may be lost though. Its time the pendulum reversed its journey back to humanity. umashankarhttp://uspandey.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8230035528177800562.post-49062414482236816992013-02-25T01:00:11.799+13:002013-02-25T01:00:11.799+13:00I would also add that the concept of vote banks is...I would also add that the concept of vote banks is a catalyst to this undesirable behavior.magiceyehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17848851692951192508noreply@blogger.com