tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8230035528177800562.post2760563866659761671..comments2024-01-17T19:08:52.409+13:00Comments on Never Mind Yaar: Hip and Bosom Thrusting BabesKhoty Mathurhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09706537182743683089noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8230035528177800562.post-71352376344973193522012-11-21T14:02:24.691+13:002012-11-21T14:02:24.691+13:00Thanks, magic eye. Good to see you here. Love your...Thanks, magic eye. Good to see you here. Love your photographs of Mumbai.Khoty Mathurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09706537182743683089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8230035528177800562.post-87693953098832612512012-11-21T13:54:23.807+13:002012-11-21T13:54:23.807+13:00Valid adviceValid advicemagiceyehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17848851692951192508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8230035528177800562.post-55511441147985385582012-11-21T07:48:10.177+13:002012-11-21T07:48:10.177+13:00Pattu, like I said earlier, I do have nothing agai...Pattu, like I said earlier, I do have nothing against dancing. I love dancing. But adult(ish) moves alarm me in toddlers and they being toddlers, WILL copy what they see. As for entering beauty competitions, that is absolutely the pits. They should be running around, copying dance moves from age-appropriate dvd-s etc and not being stuck for an hour at the hair dressers to get their hair and make up done for a beauty pageant.Khoty Mathurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09706537182743683089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8230035528177800562.post-36751195502227273122012-11-21T04:57:14.819+13:002012-11-21T04:57:14.819+13:00Very good post.
Hope it reaches scores of mothers...Very good post. <br />Hope it reaches scores of mothers and kids who watch all those dance shows in TV, in most of the regional languages too, in India. It is sad to see those kids dancing for double meaning songs from movies, and I feel appalled watching the mothers beaming on Camera! Vetirmagalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01881952063893739315noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8230035528177800562.post-58978368369747162902012-11-20T18:59:11.948+13:002012-11-20T18:59:11.948+13:00Patience and persistence sound like a good idea. T...Patience and persistence sound like a good idea. Thanks, Alka.Khoty Mathurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09706537182743683089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8230035528177800562.post-88010730135368059392012-11-20T18:33:23.494+13:002012-11-20T18:33:23.494+13:00Very valid post...esp for mothers. I am deeply dis...Very valid post...esp for mothers. I am deeply disturbed by kids who blindly follow the jhatkas and matkas. Television reality shows are encouraging the trend....<br />If the child persists with Bollywood gyrations the mothers have to patiently but persistently tell them that it is not age appropriator and vulgar.Alka Gurhahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12050387590729571321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8230035528177800562.post-12601650144532345202012-11-20T09:21:18.355+13:002012-11-20T09:21:18.355+13:00Thanks DK. If we have parenting skills I do believ...Thanks DK. If we have parenting skills I do believe we'd know how to keep punishments to the minimum and perhaps let them suffer the consequences of some of their actions. <br /><br />My kids are independent now but I do remember wondering very often how to handle some of their precocious behaviour when they were younger - I know, through experience :), the need for parenting skills. Khoty Mathurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09706537182743683089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8230035528177800562.post-11705349590135893492012-11-20T06:09:50.347+13:002012-11-20T06:09:50.347+13:00Totally agree, KayEm. Kids do need limits so they...Totally agree, KayEm. Kids do need limits so they have a clear-cut idea of what they can or can't do. We shouldn't be afraid to say "no". Keep it simple -- reward them generously when they do things right, punish them when they do wrong! This way they will know the consequences.Dark Knighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12443167342411530535noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8230035528177800562.post-41395848143063409672012-11-19T21:47:08.079+13:002012-11-19T21:47:08.079+13:00Rahul, I have nothing against a kid dancing to exp...Rahul, I have nothing against a kid dancing to express him or herself joyfully. But adult looking gyrations would definitely set the alarm bells ringing and getting a toddler to enter beauty competitions, posing etc is robbing the toddler of fun, childishness and the happiness of just being. Khoty Mathurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09706537182743683089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8230035528177800562.post-80630286549715012442012-11-19T21:04:16.555+13:002012-11-19T21:04:16.555+13:00KayEm , the crass commercialisation has done a gre...KayEm , the crass commercialisation has done a great damage to the ethics and decency of which the gyrating kids and adult like behavior is attributable. A combination of encouragement from indulgent parents does even greater damage. Very thoghtful post!Rahul Bhatiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09690287853990880735noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8230035528177800562.post-30911268088617066542012-11-19T20:19:34.548+13:002012-11-19T20:19:34.548+13:00All of us make plenty of mistakes and hopefully, p...All of us make plenty of mistakes and hopefully, parental skills give us the opportunity to think about how to handle the most common problems we might face and how we could react. Thanks, Amit.Khoty Mathurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09706537182743683089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8230035528177800562.post-38730853216428651112012-11-19T19:52:15.792+13:002012-11-19T19:52:15.792+13:00Completely agree. From whatever I have seen on TV ...Completely agree. From whatever I have seen on TV and which roaming in malls, a lot of so called 'parents' are not worthy on being one. I think there should be a test to make sure that the couple is even remotely capable of bringing up a sane child. amithttp://mashedmusings.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8230035528177800562.post-88431294489528604212012-11-19T10:24:53.286+13:002012-11-19T10:24:53.286+13:00Exposure to media is unavoidable nowadays. It has ...Exposure to media is unavoidable nowadays. It has advantages and disadvantages. For our easily influenced young, parents have to be vigilant - very difficult, I know. Perhaps parents could use that very media to keep in touch with one another?<br /><br />As for trust between parents and kids I sincerely believe parenting skills (over and above love, devotion and a desire to protect), might help.Khoty Mathurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09706537182743683089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8230035528177800562.post-5387361490216201922012-11-19T07:01:07.848+13:002012-11-19T07:01:07.848+13:00A post that is so near the truth but then isn'...A post that is so near the truth but then isn't all this due to exposure to media and I think it is a bit difficult for parents today to keep a tab .<br /><br />agree with your thoughts and suggestions in toto and hope they become effective.<br /><br />But one thing --if parents can instill a sense of belonging and faith between their kids and themselves then they can succeed when the children grow up to a certain age say from 10 years onwards they can then be convinced to follow a certain pattern <br /><br />thanks for this very very important postRajni Sinhahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08535246989455283777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8230035528177800562.post-55331387135002252302012-11-18T22:06:07.872+13:002012-11-18T22:06:07.872+13:00Thanks, KalyanThanks, KalyanKhoty Mathurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09706537182743683089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8230035528177800562.post-47191071444240917042012-11-18T21:41:28.821+13:002012-11-18T21:41:28.821+13:00Can't agree more with your thoughts...well sai...Can't agree more with your thoughts...well said!Kalyanhttp://icetrail.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8230035528177800562.post-15286355877022243472012-11-18T11:01:13.145+13:002012-11-18T11:01:13.145+13:00Thanks Zephyr. What prompted this post was the fac...Thanks Zephyr. What prompted this post was the fact that we, as parents, sometimes feel helpless in the face of rebellion and having some strategies and skills with the well being of our kids in mind won't do us (or them) any harm.Khoty Mathurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09706537182743683089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8230035528177800562.post-55454263982595905152012-11-18T01:41:16.958+13:002012-11-18T01:41:16.958+13:00Very pertinent post, KayEm. New age parents indeed...Very pertinent post, KayEm. New age parents indeed confuse freedom and appropriateness and in turn confuse their children. There is nothing wrong in setting limits and letting children know which are appropriate behaviour for their age. I have seen mothers letting their children wearing dresses that are more suited to older teens. I would love my grandchild to have fun too without indulging in age-inappropriate behaviour. Thankfully her parents think likewise :)Zephyrhttp://cybernag.innoreply@blogger.com