Nahi yaar, it is truly great. The air is so fresh
and clean and although the stream outside our house is like a nala, you can see
the bottom – so clean.
Wow, sounds beautiful.
It is
Indu wasn't lying. What she didn't add was that she
was lonely. Here she was, in a new country, the envy of all her friends back
home and she was miserable. In fact she was hurt and homesick. She wanted to go
back home and be amongst people she knew and had so much interaction with -
shared laughter, movies together, yawns at boring lectures; there was the
canteen, Madras Cafe’s delicious and cheep-cheep idli-sambhar, more
roadside junk, shopping sprees... In the evenings it was simply more of the
same and at night, if she wasn't partying she had her family, warm and
delicious food cooked and served by their live-in maid, no washing up after,
chats on the phone, the internet, TV. It never stopped. She wasn’t lonely for a
single moment.
Well, New Zealand was beautiful no doubt. But how
long was she supposed to dish out the praise. She was beginning not to mean it
anymore. Every time someone asked if she was enjoying New Zealand she dutifully
said she was. But if she had to say how wonderfully clean and green the country
was, how fresh the air one more time, she thought she would scream! How long
was she supposed to keep looking at hills or streams or ducks, penguins and
natural beauty? Where was the action? Where was the bustle of life? Where were
the roadside stalls, the crowds of people eating junk, visible and enjoying
themselves?
People seemed to go to work or Uni, then get back
into their little cubby holes. After that there was nothing but four walls, the
internet and TV. There were bars and pubs but they weren't really her thing.
Movies, plays, cafes, shopping? Yes, there was that, but who did she go with?
Alone was no fun and as for grownups... Indu sighed. She was staying with an
Indian family who were nice in their own way but busy working 9 to 5 or chauffeuring their 8 to 10 year old kids to and from various activities. Then there
was the cooking, cleaning, washing up. She tried to help wherever she could
although they insisted she didn't. She was really grateful for a touch of home
but she understood they weren't expected to entertain her as well. God knows
they tried. Indu sighed. As for their get-togethers, they were slotted away
into weekends, they were mostly 'at-homes' for other older folk (whose teenaged
kids never showed up with them) and they were boring. Nothing seemed to be
spontaneous and fun ...and young, Indu thought despondently. And the weather!
No help at all. Was it any wonder people remained indoors?
It hadn’t started out like that. Indu had come to
New Zealand for her degree in management literally on air. She was going to
take her new country of temporary residence by storm. She was going to enjoy
each and every moment. She was prepared to like and be liked. The kids here
would discover she was just like them except, she was going to top every class.
She would enjoy the local kids as much as they enjoyed her.
In a way she had idealised the kids here without
really knowing they were as human and varied as kids back home. Her
expectations had been way up. When she’d enthusiastically tried to join in, it
was misconstrued as over eagerness, rude interference or plain needy. Her efforts were met
with blank stares or polite smiles. The couple of conversations she’d attempted
to join had died out quickly. She was baffled. The light that she'd exuded was
snuffed out within an instant. Confused and hurt, she’d begun to withdraw. Her
face had acquired an aura of loneliness. How juvenile her expectations had
been, she thought jadedly. Huh! Who do they think they are, she thought
defiantly. Who needs them anyway? Oh, how she missed her life back home, her
family and friends. She hated her life in New Zealand. She hated the people
here. She hated weekends and dreaded weekdays at Uni. Huh, Uni. Can’t they even say that properly?
Colleges over here are called Unis. If you call them “colleges” they
think you’re talking of school.
What! Crazy. How can a college be a school?
I know. Stupid, isn’t it? Indu deleted
that and decided not to agree. It wouldn’t do to let on how she felt – on
second thoughts, why the hell not. Seema is
my best friend, she thought.
I know. Stupid, isn’t it? Then, deciding to put a cheerful spin on it, she added, When I saw some young kids in uniform spill
out of “Abel-Smith College” opposite our house on my first day here I just
assumed they were visiting the college on a school trip.
Haha Indu, and when they disappeared into
classrooms you thought they were a whole bunch of child geniuses. Right?
Still the same old Seema :-) Good talking. I’d
better go. It is early morning here and I should start getting ready for
college, er, Uni.
Haha, you clown. Don't you dare go all Kiwi on me.
Okay, bye for now.
Indu looked at the clock and reluctantly signed
off. Dear Seema. She was the one person who still brought a smile to her lips.
What would she have done without her regular chats on facebook with her closest
friend? She had better start getting ready. Indu dreaded Mondays. She hated the
feeling of walking into the class and having every eye on her. No one said
anything. The silence was deafening. She even sensed that group of girls she'd
tried talking to smirk behind her back. She looked to see who else smirked back
at them. To be fair, everyone was busy and nobody was paying her any attention
at all. Sadly, she couldn't decide which was worse. She went and sat in a
corner, seemingly busy as she used her phone to text a message. She ignored
everyone too.
“Hi, is this seat taken?"
"No, I don't think so." Being Indu, she
gave the girl a friendly smile. But she'd been hurt too recently. She went back
to texting.
Unfazed, the girl made another friendly overture.
"Wow, Is that the Apple IPad 3?” Indu looked up to see the girl looking at
her phone. She held it out politely but without smiling. She’d been hurt and
was guarded. But when she saw the genuine friendliness in the other face she
too became less uptight.
"I find it such an improvement on the IPad 2."
The two chatted for a while, careful to keep the
conversation on mobile phones, things happening around them, the new class,
even the weather but nothing personal. Indu couldn’t help chuckling. When she
saw the girl look at her puzzled, she said, “It is only after coming here that
I’ve realised why people talk of the weather so much. Back home, we don’t have
surprises from one day to the next. It rains for four months and is sunny the
rest of the year.”
The girl chuckled with her. "Here it seems to
change from minute to minute." Then she added, “I’m Estelle, by the way.”
“Oh. Indu.”
That was the first bit of personal information
they’d exchanged after a full five minutes of conversation. As they chatted,
the two glanced at each other from time to time, to ensure the other was still
interested, not distracted. If that happened, Indu was ready to move away. She
felt skittish and at the same time, she had to admit it felt good talking to
someone in class. If she glanced at Estelle, the smile seemed to be in her face
and eyes. After the awkwardness of those first few moments Indu too opened up
by the minute.
It was unfortunate she'd given up on making friends
after one or two casual encounters with a few people she hadn't clicked with.
There were at least a hundred more in that class. She knew now that it would
have been better to have still remained vulnerable, human and approachable. She
wouldn't have wasted those few precious days being miserable.
The lecturer (not professor, thought Indu with an
inward smile) entered the classroom. Estelle took the seat next to hers. The
two darted a quick smile at each other before getting their note books
out.
Indu knew she had lots to tell Seema when they
chatted that night. She also knew she really liked New Zealand. So beautifully
clean and green.
I swear, Seema, it is so clean and green.
If you say that once more I'll scream and I swear you'll hear it all the way to New Zealand.
But it is, Indu
protested. You've got to come and see for yourself. Why don't you? she
added, meaning it with all her heart.
Thanks Indu. Will start collecting now and who
knows, in fifty years...
Heehee. You'll never change. Really wish you were
here, though.
Awwwww, thanks.
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Indu and Estelle became good friends. Over time,
Indu came to know many more students. Her friends circle began to expand.
As soon as she found out where to look, Indu also realised
there was plenty to do. Perhaps because of the weather, much of it was indoors.
Here's a short list of five things she tried.
- The public libraries. To Indu's delight she realised they were free
to join and books were free to borrow, as long as you returned them within
a stipulated period. Late returns, even by a single day involved a small
fine.
- Indu learnt to constantly look up library notice boards, supermarket
notice boards , the Uni notice boards and newsletters, the free (home
delivered) local newspapers or the local city council office (every suburb
has one) for information on activities.
- She loved the plays and music concerts regularly advertised. Being
cash strapped students with no income, she and her friends cheerfully went
on the cheap ticket day (once a week) for people just like themselves. Of
course they had to book in advance. Their student ids got them discounts
everywhere.
- Thanks to some friends, Indu was motivated enough to battle the
cold and her desire to remain snugly indoors. Instead of the gym, they
joined the aqua aerobics class. The pool was indoors and heated but still,
oh so cold just to step in. The instructor was a young, energetic girl
full of life and fun. They exercised to music. If a song was familiar, like a Beatles number, the instructor swooped down and held the mike close to someone who was then supposed to
belt out a line while vigorously moving arms and legs in the pool.
Everyone sounded off pitch and everyone had a good laugh. After the
forty-five minute full on workout, the adrenaline rush was
astounding.
Indu did not quite top the class but was happy with her results. There were too many distractions and what the heck, one is young only once.
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